cares: sync with upstream, fully adopt v1.12.0

[rvagg]

Not a big change but previous sync's have been piecemeal so this is a full job. I've also redone most of the config headers in config/ (haven't touched the AIX one but it still compiles and passes).

Passing CI @ https://ci.nodejs.org/job/node-test-commit/5830/ minus unrelated freebsd failures.

I believe this is ABI and API stable so could be backported through to v4.x.

[rvagg]

@indutny @bnoordhuis I think you two might be best equipped to review this one

[sam-github]

@rvagg @richardlau should the AIX header be updated, too, or is it just cosmetic?

[gibfahn]

cc/ @nodejs/platform-aix

[richardlau]

Looking at the changes to the config/ headers for the other platforms in this pull request I think the AIX header should be updated too.

@rvagg Looks like this change also adds deps/cares/LICENSE.md -- Presumably we want to update the license-builder.sh script to use this file and regenerate the license?

[rvagg]

updated license-builder.sh, thanks @richardlau, that's why I included LICENSE.md after all!

[rvagg]

I've updated AIX config, I had trouble getting access to an AIX machine yesterday but I've figured out my problem. PTAL IBMers.

[gibfahn]

Another CI: https://ci.nodejs.org/job/node-test-pull-request/4734/

[jasnell]

Ping... updates?

[gibfahn]

cc/ @nodejs/platform-aix regarding the AIX header update.

[fhinkel]

@rvagg Any idea if the CI failures are related? Is this ready to land?

[mscdex]

c-ares 1.13.0 is available now. If we can land that instead, that will also take care of #13897 in the process.

[kasicka]

Is there any ETA on this?

[BridgeAR]

@rvagg are you going to follow up on this?

[BridgeAR]

Closing this due to a long inactivity. Please feel free to reopen if you want to follow up on this @rvagg

[rvagg]

Thanks for the nudge @BridgeAR! Sorry for my unresponsiveness here, I'm trying to get back on the 🐴 now. Opened at new PR @ #15378 with 1.13.0 but it still has a couple of failures. Any additional help there would be appreciated.